A Few Blind Date Don’ts

When you are on a blind date, don’t lie. Try to always be yourself. You shouldn’t pretend to be someone that you aren’t. This is only going to lead to the date being a disaster for both of you. If you are out on a date and you feel that the other person isn’t being truthful, you know that you can’t trust them, and you aren’t going to want to continue the date, much less go out on another date with them again.

Please don’t bore your blind date with lots of details about your past, unless they are fascinating details or the person asks for more information. Even then, make sure they really want to know and that they’re not just being polite. You can talk a little about yourself, but don’t go into a lot of detail. Especially if you are sensing that the other person isn’t interested.

Next, don’t hog the entire conversation. Try to listen as the person talks. Don’t make it seem like you only want to hear yourself talk. If you come off as being like this, no one is going to want to take you out on a date again because all you do is talk about yourself. Being self-centered is a deal breaker for many dates.

Make sure to avoid the topic of ex-boyfriends and girlfriends, or ex-spouses. Even ex-in-laws. It’s easy to complain about ex’s, but under no circumstances is it appropriate to discuss on your first date with someone else. Keep the discussion away from your old romantic interests. Even if they bring up their ex, don’t mention yours.

Don’t be too opinionated on your first date. You don’t know how the other person feels about things, so if you start to talk about something, you might hurt their feelings by accidentally saying something negative about a cause they support. Test the waters before you start to talk about things like politics or current events. Get a feel for what they believe, and then talk about things with tact. Be courteous.

Don’t bring up potentially controversial topics without first knowing how the other person feels about those things. It is important to remember that when you are going on a blind date, you don’t want to make the other person feel uncomfortable any way.

It is also perfectly okay for you to not talk about something that they mention in conversation. No matter what, make sure that you aren’t doing or saying things that might make the other person misjudge who you are or take you seriously about something that you don’t really believe in. In other words, don’t make a big deal out of the little things.