What Do You Want in a Date?

The first step to getting a great girlfriend is deciding exactly what kind of woman would be right for you. You don’t want to settle for a woman who isn’t someone you like being around for more than just a little while.

The point of getting a girlfriend is to have someone to have more fun with. If you get into a relationship and end up miserable, you’re doing something wrong. So first, decide exactly what you want. That’s the only way you’ll stand a chance at getting it.

How do you want to date? Do you want fun, casual, short-term relationships with several women at once? Would you rather have one girlfriend who you really have fun with and respect? Do you want to date a few women casually at first and see if you’d like to get more serious later?

Who do you want to date? A friendly, down-to-earth girl-next-door? Someone outgoing and adventurous? An elegant and sophisticated woman? A quiet and reserved type who saves most of her attention for you? Or again, several different women so that you can see who you enjoy being around the most?

What are you going to do together? Do you want someone to go with to all the local clubs? Would you rather have a girlfriend who sits on the sidelines and cheers for you, or one who will jump right in the game?

How about a girlfriend who enjoys a sport or hobby you’ve never tried? It’s a good idea to start working this out now, before you meet her and before she announces that she’s bored with dinner and a movie every time you go out.

Right now, you might think that physical attraction is all that a relationship needs, and you’d be right for the first date, maybe. But eventually, if you haven’t thought through what you want to give and receive in your relationship, your girlfriend will get on your nerves until you have to break it off.

But if you start off your relationship right, you’ll be much more likely to get a great girlfriend who you’ll never want to leave. Remember that you have to have something to offer in a relationship, too.

What will that be? There are a few things that women want that will surprise you, and others that will seem incredibly obvious. And then there are other things that you thought were important that turn out not to matter at all. So what’s fact and what’s fiction? This series will tell you after you figure out what it is that you really want out of your dating life.

What Woman Want

What is it about women that makes them so hard to figure out? Some men think that women are only attracted to jerks. Some men are convinced that women want money and security. Others are sure that women only want men just like their fathers. And some have decided that not even the women themselves know what they want.

None of those ideas are accurate. The truth about what women want is simple. And here it is: Each woman is different. In order to know exactly what she wants, you need to ask her. If that doesn’t match up with what you already have to offer, then you need to move on.

That said, there are several qualities that most women desire in a man, and it doesn’t hurt to see which ones you have or are willing to develop. In fact, it can help you a lot in your personal life.

Most women want a secure, confident, financially and emotionally steady man. The details may be different, but the effect is the same: a man who has a stable life isn’t likely to ruin theirs.

Some women who’ve been brought up in an unstable home are going to be a little confused about the meaning of a stable life, but for the most part, women like relationships that are a safe bet to improve their lives.

Your attitude, above all, is going to determine how attractive you are. If you take care of yourself physically, emotionally, financially, and mentally, you are already more attractive than any man out there who thinks women only like jerks.

If your financial affairs are in order, you are free to see the difference between women who only want money and the ones who are truly interested in you. If you carry yourself in a confident manner, you are already more attractive than men who think women only want younger versions of their fathers or that they don’t have any idea what they want.

What women want is simple, easy to learn, and follows common sense. You don’t have to do crazy things to get noticed or make yourself attractive. You need to do just the opposite be practical in your everyday life and it will pay off later.

So now, your homework is to look at your life and see the areas that need to be taken care of. If you have problems, don’t expect that a girlfriend is going to fix them. You’re an adult and you can handle it.

Besides, you’re not going to get a girlfriend so she can come in and straighten your life out. You might clean up nice, but how would she ever know? You need to have your problems worked out for yourself before you invite a woman into your life. And then when you do, she’ll be impressed by how smoothly your life is running.

The Woman You Want

Just as no woman wants a man who isn’t in control of his life, you don’t need a woman whose life is a disaster. If she has bad habits, addictions, or a history of decisions that turn out to make her life worse, pass her by.

You might like to feel needed, but you don’t need to be necessary for her survival in the everyday world. If she isn’t capable of taking care of herself, you don’t need to rescue her.

Be nice to her, but don’t think you can cure her of an addiction or teach her how to handle her personal life better. That’s what counselors are for. Trying to take on that role in a romantic relationship just won’t work.

A woman you want to date will be healthy physically, mentally, emotionally and financially. That means that she should be able to take care of herself and she won’t be desperate for a man to come bail her out.

A healthy woman won’t use you for security, because she already has her own. She’ll still want to be with you, but because she likes you, not just what you can do for her. And she won’t drop you because someone better comes along she’ll like you for yourself. She’ll be much less likely to be clingy and jealous as well.

If you’re attracted to a woman who just doesn’t have her life together, you need to date someone else. Later, when she decides on her own to straighten out her life, you might date her.

But until then, don’t even try it. Remember, you want your relationships to be happy. If she can’t be happy because her life is a mess, you can’t make her happy and you can’t be happy with her.

You can’t just come in and fix everything for her that’s her job as an adult. Taking over that job will make her angry with you, no matter how much better your solutions are. Also, constantly having to rescue a woman gets old really quick, so don’t pick that relationship in the first place and you have a better chance of staying together.

Hold out for a woman who has her life together. If she is healthy physically, mentally, emotionally, and financially, you’ll be able to tell. She’ll be happy, calm, and self-aware. She won’t have to escape reality with drugs or alcohol, or dull the pain in her life with self-destructive behavior.

She won’t make excuses for dumb decisions and insist that she has no choice but to be a victim. She won’t have drama cluttering up her life which means that she’ll have room for a healthy, happy relationship with you.

Where to Meet Women

Where you meet a woman has the power to define the rest of your relationship. This is true because of three things: First, because where a woman spends most of her time says a lot about the kind of person she is.

If she’s outgoing and likes to party, chances are you’ll meet her at a club. If she’s athletic and competitive, you might find her at a race. If she’s into humanitarian causes, you might bump into her while building a house for Habitat for Humanity.

Second, she’ll remember where you met, and that will affect her perception of you. If you meet her at a club, she might assume you only want a casual relationship. If your friends introduce you to her, she’ll know that your friends and her friends already think you might be a good couple, and you’ll probably still see each other sometimes even if you break up.

Third, if she makes a big impression on you when you meet, you’ll also remember what circumstances you met under. You might always think of her as the wild girl at the club, even if she normally doesn’t go to clubs. These things set the tone for your relationship.

Of course, the circumstances that you meet under don’t have to define the rest of the relationship, but it takes work to erase any negative impressions either one of you might have made. And the very beginning of a relationship is not a good time for problems.

The best place to meet women is during the course of your real life. You shouldn’t have to go out of your way to meet women. If you don’t see women with the potential to be great girlfriends during your everyday routine, then you need to get out more.

Don’t worry about coming across someone perfect unexpectedly. That’s really the best way to meet women it’s hard to look desperate for a girlfriend when you’re just going about your business. You can be approachable and attractive even when you aren’t trying to be.

Learning how to meet women anywhere makes dating easier on you in the long run. If the only reason you went somewhere was to find single women, you’re going to have a hard time explaining why you don’t want to go back when you have a girlfriend.

Desperate men chase after women, and you don’t have to be desperate. Meet women wherever you are and leave a good impression, and sooner or later one is going to show you that she’s interested.

How to Meet, Get and Keep a Great Girlfriend

There are women everywhere, but meeting one you’d like to go out with isn’t nearly as simple as it sounds. Women can be hard to approach, hard to impress, and hard to figure out and no wonder.

Their brains work differently than yours does. They relate to other people in an almost completely different way than you do. And sometimes, it’s like they’re speaking another language, with the same words as yours, but completely different meanings. If you’ve had trouble navigating relationships before, now you know why.

Hardly any men really understand what women want, and the ones who do have an edge over the rest of the guys who just blunder along doing their best. For most men, getting a great girlfriend is hit-or-miss.

If they try hard enough and long enough, there’s a possibility that they might get lucky. And then there’s the minority – the few men who get it. Those men hardly have to try at all and they have women all over them. It doesn’t seem fair.

The good news? Those men aren’t really so different from you. They just know a few easy-to-learn techniques that make it simple to show women their best qualities. And if they can do it, so can you. You can learn how to get a girlfriend – and not just any girlfriend – a great one.

You can learn how to approach women, impress them, and create excellent relationships with them. You can learn what to do, what to say, and how to behave in a way that makes you more powerful, more attractive, and more fun than ever before and that is exactly what this series is going to teach you.

You’re going to learn the pros and cons of several different types of relationships and how to choose the best relationship for you. You’ll find out where the best places to meet women are, and how to get the exact connection you want before you even approach a woman.

Find out the impact having more fun has on your attractiveness. You’ll be learning how to catch a woman’s attention, how to tell if she’s interested, and how to make yourself more approachable all without saying a word.

Don’t kill your good impression with desperate pick-up lines or thoughtless mistakes. Learn better ways to flirt, to introduce yourself, and to make yourself memorable. Find out how to cast a wide net and then choose from great women who are interested in you.

Whether you want to find a new relationship, you already have a specific woman in mind, you want to date several women or find one great relationship, this series shows you how to take control and make that happen.

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